The logo that fills me with dread... As many millions of people around the world do, at some point every day I browse my newsfeed on Facebook. This daily acitivity always results in me getting angry and has definately deepened me 'hater'ishness.
Facebook is not only a great tool for keeping tabs on school bullies and old flames but it is also a wonderful way for all your friends to display the fruits of their labours like an open wound. Very rarely do those brave few open up their pains and anguish on this website. The majority of us keep it off the status update and deal with it ourselves.
Facebook gives us the chance to censor what people see of us, for us to create and edit our personalities so we can seem a completely different person altogether. My point being that when I do my daily flick around my newsfeed, I am bombarded with people celebrating their 'new jobs', 'new babies', 'university course success' and other such achievements. It is the preverbial 'nur nur nur nur nurrr'. Yet I put myself through it every day, it is human nature and has been from our earliest times to want to know what our neighbours are doing and judge our own success of their achievements.
This can breed some serious 'haterishness' within someone, day after day seeing people making successes of themselves whilst you read about it can definately develop contempt.
So where can my advice go from here? I can't very well tell you to delete your Facebook page, if it were that easy then I'd have done it years ago. As much as the website is a constant source of jealousy, it is also a valid and useful communication device, it is even on par with me telling you to throw your mobile phone away and delete your email address. It is fast becoming a necessity to some people. My advice to you and to myself would be to try and not take it all too seriously, sometimes it may seen as if everyone else in the world is having a ball and all you can do is read about it. This is not the case, we are all human and we will all try to hide our pains and failures from eachother as best we can.
I guess Step 1 would be to let go of the constant comparisons with other people. Do not judge your failures next to their successes.
Over and Out.
